Walk in Love

In case you missed the memo, I live in a house with 25 other people. Yes, you read that correctly. Twenty-five. 25 people from different places. 25 people from different cultures. 25 people with completely different life experiences. 25 people with different worldviews. 25 people that I get to do life with, which, much like our house, has become a beautiful and messy experience.

I've been in this environment for about three and a half months now. For almost the entirety of that time, I have been trying to love these people. Each and every one of them. Because obviously God brought me to this internship and this home so that I can love them, right? I've tried and tried to love them, even when it's hard. I've tried to love them through random acts of kindness, like washing everyone's dishes or cleaning the kitchen or washing the couch cover. I've tried to love them through words of affirmation, through compliments and loving words. I've tried everything, and it hasn't been easy. In fact, it's gotten harder. But I've tried.

And that, I just realized, is the problem.

I've been trying. I, me, have been trying. I have had to try to love some of these people. It isn't easy. It's something I have had to remind myself to do. I've had to try.

If I'm truly loving them, loving them with the love of Christ that is in me, then I shouldn't have to try, right? It should flow out of me. I shouldn't even have to think about it, Christ's self-sacrificial love should radiate out of every pore.

Except I think I haven't been loving with Christ's love. At least, not lately. I've been loving with a "I'm doing this to bless others in hopes that they'll notice and affirm and love me more" kind of love. Which is not the way Christ loves.

Christ loves perfectly. God loves us SO much that He sent His perfect Son to die for us. I know that, but do I really understand it? Do I really fathom that the God of the universe sent His ONLY Son to die for ME? For my sins, for my mistakes, for my brokenness and stubbornness and consistently shitty behavior. He died to us. All of us. Me included. And because I believe in Him, I believe this, I have been saved. I have been redeemed. He has rescued me and saved me and He loves me. Not because of what I can give Him, not because of what I do for Him, but because He does. His love is completely perfect and self-giving and there is nothing I can do to deserve it, to pay Him back for it, to justify it. He sacrificed Himself because He loves me. God loves me because I am His cherished daughter, His messy little creation, His princess. I didn't earn that, I didn't do anything to merit receiving that. It is just because He loves me.

THAT is self-giving, truly self-sacrificial love. That is Christ.

That's how I want to love. I want to love like He loves.

But I can't try to love that way. It isn't something you can try and do. It's something that just... happens.

Lazo spoke about this at Reality the other week, that our ability to truly love others is directly proportionate to our relationship with God, to the degree we are experiencing Him. When we are in deep, intimate, true, beautiful relationship with Him, we love more easily. It flows out of us as easily as we breathe.

When we are with Christ, truly with Him, then we truly imitate Him. He radiates through us, and loving others because we love them, not because we want something from them, comes naturally.

This last week I have been brought to my last nerve with some of my sweet housemates. Little annoyances have reached a new high, and it has become increasingly hard to love, let alone be friends. I have three weeks left here. That is just enough time to tune out, to focus on what is next and stop caring. But I don't want that to happen. I want these next three weeks to be some of the best. I want to make the most of it.

Instead of trying harder, my goal is this: to press into Jesus.
Instead of praying for God to help me love, my prayer will be this: Lord, show me more of You.

I want to walk in love, but not just general love, but Christ's love. I want to walk in love, side by side with my God.